There aren’t many ideological hills I think are worth dying on - but this is one of them: Pay attention to reality for what it is. I used to love the saying, “If you repeat a lie often enough, it becomes the truth”. When I first heard this phrase, I was maybe in 6th grade. As a creative kid, I actually sort of latched onto this as a message of hope: if I came up with something and said it enough times to others and to myself - it could become true! But that’s not really how it works, is it?
It would be more accurate to say: “if you repeat a LIE (a falsehood, a thing that is not true) often enough, people begin to believe it - including you.” What I’ve found is that the greater the lie (like when the lie is about one’s own identity or their relationships with others or the value of other human beings in general) and the tighter that lie is clenched, the more you have to twist how you experience reality to fit the narrative based on lies that you’ve written - getting further and further from objective, observable truth as you twist.
You know who “if you repeat a lie often enough, it becomes the truth” is often attributed to? Josef Stalin. Maaaaaybe should’ve pieced together sooner that the phrase isn’t a message of hope 😉
This picture is a still from my roommate Brendan Jones’ 2016 film, The Id. I played a man taking a deep dive into his psyche and coming face to face with his own reality